Salsa City Forum » News and Chat » I have lost my Salsa confidence! Any advice??

I have been dancing for about 18 months and sometimes really enjoy it. Recently though, I seem to have lost my confidence. I used to go to classes as much as 4 times a week and dance with a variety of different partners.

I don’t go as often now, but really want to get my confidence back.

Has anyone else experienced a loss of confidence? Can anyone offer me advice on how to get my confidence back and start enjoying it again?

Yes me... I danced it for a bout 16-18mnths and lost my confidence. So I started a different type of dance, and I miss Salsa if I’m honest. I enjoyed it but felt that if I knew I was being watched I kept messing up. I am looking to start back up again! Just need a push and a shove

Xx

Jemma

Thanks for that advice Jemma.

Sometimes I feel I dance better if people are watching, although sometimes in complete contrast, like you, it totally puts me off!

I stand at the side of the dance floor and watch others dancing and just wish that I could have the same amount of confidence as them!!!

The major thing that does spur me on, if I do actually venture onto the dance floor is encouragement from my boyfriend (who also dances). I am confident dancing with him but really want to dance with others, as sometimes I feel like I am holding him back or that he feels bad leaving me on my own when he wants to dance with other partners.

I don’t know what to do! I really need some encouragement!!!

If that’s little Jemma there’s no reason to lose your confidence - you’re a terrific dancer!

Might help if you change your point of view. There is enought going on with the SONG and your PARTNER to keep you well busy for the duration.
If you think about anything else, you might miss “it”. You have one dance and one song. Enjoy it. You have ONE!

Hi Salsa Kiss and Jemma,

Next time you are at Bar Risa ask me for a dance and I will help you with that confidence.

Thanks Stellan,

Anyone else got any advice??

Salsa x

Hi Salsa Kiss,
As per Stellan, next time youre in Risa come and ask me for a dance. I know I’m a girl but I can lead too.
And lil’ Jem - Get back to salsa! Youre a fantstic dancer and we miss you! :)

Hi Salsa Kiss and Jemma

Like wise as both Stellan and Kate have said, I would like to take this chance to dance with you both, when I first started dancing I had no confidence and was scared to ask anyone to dance, even though I have been doing dancing for a number of years I still have to pluck up the courage to dance with new people, I have to admit that’s half the fun, finding some one new you enjoy dancing with sometimes its feel fantastic and when it does not feel good the tracks normally only 3 mins or so and there are plenty more people and plenty more nights to dance.
I have found it gives me confidence dancing with new people, and it challenges me to make sure I lead well.
I hear so many women I dance with tell me the trouble they have with poor leads or what many women call there the charity cases, the ones they dance with because they feel sorry for them, as they try very hard but in their word “ could do better” or “why don’t they listen to the music” or “ why is it they ask me to dance but then don’t dance with me they just do there own moves”.
Any way if I spot you both I will ask you for a dance and I will do my best.
Don’t give its like anything you get so far and then you need a small push to take you to the next level.

Thanks Red Man,

How will I know you? Will to be carrying a rose and a newspaper under your arm :-)?

Salsa x