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Hi Lisa... I’m a different Matt.

I don’t want my girlfriends pulse racing and being passionate with another man full stop.

And I think that’s OK.

Agree Matt...
Salsa is great for Single people... complicated for those in relationships... It aint called the Devil Dance for nothing...

Women may have a different view here...

Also I don’t think Salsa relationships work long term (as a rule)...

I find myself not wanting to go to Salsa when I’m in a relationship...

Great to get some support bloke!! My girl is a big dancing fan and I’m just sort of sussing this whole deal out...

I can see how it could be a problem - on the other hand I regularly go with my girlfriend and we both dance with lots of other people all night and it never causes an issue. The only arguments we do have tend do be when we dance together and my lead is rubbish.

Every body stop geting so hung up on what’s right or wrong, its all supposed to fun and enjoyable, if you start to take it apart, you will forget the reason for dancing.

If your free and not attached and your attracted to someone ask them they can always say no, don’t stalk and hassle them as some people do just come to dance, the being nice bit and holding your partner close sharing good moves is part of it, BUT don’t mis read it folks, we are all grown up, come on now just go out and dance!!

Thing is Redman there is a right and a wrong. It’s probably worth taking a look at.

Hey... different Matt and Bloke... please don’t get me wrong. I do totally understand where you’re both coming from but the truth is, with the nature of the dance it’s impossible to not every now and then get caught up in the moment of it... fact! Unless ur both really crap!!! ;-)

As it happens I agree with a lot of what you are both saying but I’m not about to get into that.

Salsa should be fun and if we all remember we are all adults, firstly, and secondly we are all absolutely in control of our actions, dancing should be harmless enough. But equally Bloke... salsa can be awful for single people but lets face it... where there’s salsa there are rumours and it always seems to be the single ones, both men and women that get a bad name for being slutty or trying to hit on other people’s partners etc... and that’s not always fair either.

Sometimes people just click, they move the same, their rhythm is the same and they just fit... but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s any more than that.

This is a debate that will never end so I’m going to be quiet now. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and views on the whole thing.

Mmmm it does seem that there are a few, both male and female, that use the salsa scene as a means to 'get to know’ someone before moving on to the next, it is a shame when some dancers suddenly feel uncomfortable about coming back as they have fallen for the charms of someone that just seems to use them for whatever they can. And when they finish with one salsa scene they move to other areas and do the same

And to reinforce things just look at the adverts to the right, all about relationships!! Strange that they are not advertising clothing or cars or is it salsa dancers are only into one thing :)

Dating or not dating this is not a big dilemma! It is big only if you make it so.
Surely if it is ment to happen it will happen despite sexy movements, nasty gossips or urban dramas!

Enjoy yourself and be honest with who you like... if you like someone make the time to know them and then tell them.
I think this is the best line of actions!

Post Scriptum: Thanks to all of you guys who dance with all those unexperienced girls (like me) on a Tuesday and a Thursday night. It means a lot as it is the best way to practice and hence improve our skills!

Tante grazie

Hey Lisa.

Once again. I don’t want my girlfriend getting ‘'caught up in the moment of it'’ with any other guy. And if this is what is happening there is a simple solution...

A) she stops dancing with other guys, or

B) we stop going out.

What you are saying is a bit like saying that... sex is fun... and I guess it’s just the nature of it every now and then to get caught up in it... but that’s just sex... so hey... let’s just be adult about it? And have fun with it... and share it around?

No way!! :)

If that is its nature... that you get ‘'caught up in the moment'’ then it is for you and someone special!! Not for you and every Tom, Dick and Harry who has been attending dance classes for the past 10 years. Or even for me, and every Sarah, Betty and Julie.

You say you are absolutely in control of your actions... but then you say you get caught up in the moment as well?... these two concepts clash Lisa.