Blimey, Blokey I think you’re over analysing the situation. However, seeing a post like this though, I new it wouldn’t belong before it sparked off some lively debate that has been lacking on this website for a while.
Before I stated Salsa, my opportunities to meet girls were at best limited. Mainly because of the line of work I’m in and also the sporting club I used to be a member of was all bit too competitive at the expense of being more socially orientated.
Salsa on the other hand is the perfect environment for dating provided you are sensible about it. I’m sure that there are many singles both male and female hoping to meet their other half on the Salsa scene. The main advantage being, that you instantly have a common interest which is always a good starting point.
I’ve asked some girls who I regularly dance with and who I know are already spoken for, why their fellers don’t come to Salsa and the responses vary from, ‘they don’t have time’, ‘they don’t have an interest in dancing’ or ‘they have tried it, but have given up because it’s too difficult’
I think it’s is real shame when couples don’t share the same leisure interests. And it seems that some girls are out enjoying themselves in the company of other guys and spending less time with the one they supposedly love which is a mystery to me. If I was the guy in their position I would want to know what was occupying so much of their time.
Of course you don’t want to be labeled as the guy who is there to pick up women, therefore as a bloke you must be subtle about it and not try to force the situation by asking out every girl you dance with. I recently sampled the Salsa scene in another city and because I was on my own and nobody new me I’m sure some females thought I had an agenda and turned me down when I asked them to just dance.
Being able to ask a girl to dance is great advantage, because girls love guys that can dance, at least I hope so. I don’t think I can dance very well but have recently had many encouraging comments from both the partners I dance with and occasionally from some of guys on the scene. One of the guy’s recently asked me why I was still single.
Yes people will inevitably gossip. The chemistry I feel with when I dance with one of my regular dance partners is amazing on the dance floor, but that’s where it’s ends and we both know that. A few of my friends have jumped to conclusions and made observations saying they thought we were an item but this is not the case.
Opportunities often present themselves out of the blue, when you least expect it. For example it may be the girl who does the asking for the dance, and if you click with them straight away and she fits the bill after you’ve asked a few routine questions, then why not ask her out? You only live one after all.
Too many times I have let opportunities slip and then find that I’m kicking myself for not making a move. Sometimes I’m almost certain that a girl must be spoken for, but it’s the small element of not knowing for sure, that persuades me to ask them. In the cases where they have been spoken for, they have usually said that they are very flattered that I have asked them. On a few other occasions the response has been, ‘I just want to be friends’ which is fine, and they have still accepted my invitation to ask them out.
Finally, for those of you are wondering what SWS means, it’s Single Welsh and Sexy.
