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At least that way we'll recognise you then - won't we Twink. :-) Joke - That was a Joke!

It seems I have a conupl of "fans"... Thank you.

Well well well, seems there's some hot debate to be had in the salsa scene.

I seem to be missing out! Very interesting to know there are lots of people who post on message boards also.

I've been dancing in Cardiff for a few years now and have always been concious of leads, especially when learning.

Apparently when I'm pissed my lead is rubbish and I blame the lady for making mistakes - then again if I can't stand up, there's probably not much hope of gettign a lead....

As a student and a teacher, I find that a follower who leads a sequence because she knows it will only inhibit her lead's learning the sequence - ladies if you know the move, that's great, let your lead learn it too.

I take my hat off to any lady who can lead another lady/follower, if you want to understand, then try the other side of the equation.

I have been a lady and know most of the ladies footwork, styling and movements, so I guess I have some experience of that side....

Anyway, hope to see you all out and about soon.

Welcome to the forum, Jaws. Plenty of food for thought there!

Love the debate.
Having read with amusement the views and comments from everyone I can only contribute that I feel reluctant to dance again!!!!
Yes, I'm guilty of
leading, looking bored, kicking someones legs from underneath them, dancing with Tarzan, chatting when I'm supposed to be concentrating,sin of sins, asking men to dance and generally having a great evening!!! Please advise me ...should I continue to attend and meet all the lovely new friends I have made or sit with Twink in the corner with a bag over my head!

Hugh, to be serious, also, I know you are quite right , many times I've had my ankles kicked and arms pulled out of joint and it's not funny. Reading the comments has actually made me aware of many aspects of my dancing that need improvement, but I do feel that several people are a little harsh with their opinions.

I must say that most of the men I've danced with in Cardiff are diplomatic with their advice....and that's appreciated.


What's your opinion on women asking men for dances ....out of interest?

Don't worry about people's strong opinions, they're only words and if they make us think, that's good. If anything too aggressive or offensive was posted I would delete it.

I'm always very pleased when a woman asks me to dance, so I'm fully in favour of it, I think most men are. There are a few women around whom I've never asked to dance and perhaps feel a little guilty about it. But then I think, hey! They haven't asked me to dance either.

Thanks Hugh,that sounds fair....your not a libra by any chance?
It's always a bit daunting knowing whether to ask or not, it can feel uncomfortable, but we are there to dance!

There is a great quote on Salsamafia.com " In salsa you can never say no... to a dance"

It's never occurred to me that some women might find it uncomfortable asking a man to dance. So let me say to all the ladies out there, "Just do it!". But choose your quarry carefully, go for someone at a similar level of skill or, at least, someone you can hang in there with. If you're a beginner and you go for an experienced dancer when a fast track is playing it might not be fun for either of you.